[well. shadowheart has shared her life story and waner supposes it's only fair if she shares hers, since this is supposed to be a two-way street...]
...my father claimed he was in love with my mother but married her sister, and then brought me and my mother into his household while promising to make my mother his wife and to acknowledge me as his daughter when I was fifteen. Instead he made her his concubine, allowed my half-sister to torment us, and then when she set my mother up and framed her for having an affair, he beat my mother and she advised me to run away and convince a nobleman to marry me so my father couldn't mistreat her anymore. ...only the man who promised to marry me made me his concubine instead.
[it sounds kind of petty and soap-opera dramatic in comparison.]
[she is so tired of men and also nobility and politics.]
Status and security, yes. Wives in Daxing are respected, and marrying into a noble family means that a woman's relatives are also protected because to harm them would be to offend the wife of a member of an influential family. But concubines are treated almost as if they are servants, and can really only attain any sort of status if they bear sons. Even then, if the man has a wife, they cannot complain no matter how they are treated.
[she makes an aggravated noise in the back of her throat.]
...I know now that he never intended to keep it. [honestly she would kind of like to murder him for it but she keeps that to herself because she would like to get to go home come judgment day and not just get cast down to hell.] He just told me what I wanted to hear.
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...my father claimed he was in love with my mother but married her sister, and then brought me and my mother into his household while promising to make my mother his wife and to acknowledge me as his daughter when I was fifteen. Instead he made her his concubine, allowed my half-sister to torment us, and then when she set my mother up and framed her for having an affair, he beat my mother and she advised me to run away and convince a nobleman to marry me so my father couldn't mistreat her anymore. ...only the man who promised to marry me made me his concubine instead.
[it sounds kind of petty and soap-opera dramatic in comparison.]
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...Men are awful, aren't they.
[girl, fuck all of that.]
What is the difference, to be a wife or a concubine? Status, security?
[she is actually from a fairly gender egalitarian world, though there is still a lot of abuse of power and bad stuff that happens to people.]
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[she is so tired of men and also nobility and politics.]
Status and security, yes. Wives in Daxing are respected, and marrying into a noble family means that a woman's relatives are also protected because to harm them would be to offend the wife of a member of an influential family. But concubines are treated almost as if they are servants, and can really only attain any sort of status if they bear sons. Even then, if the man has a wife, they cannot complain no matter how they are treated.
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[it's not familiar to her, exactly, but the cruelty of it is.]
So because of what he did, you weren't able to get that protection for your mother.
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[she makes an aggravated noise in the back of her throat.]
...I know now that he never intended to keep it. [honestly she would kind of like to murder him for it but she keeps that to herself because she would like to get to go home come judgment day and not just get cast down to hell.] He just told me what I wanted to hear.